Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

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The shower was wonderful. It was a beautiful sunny afternoon and everyone had a great time. A very welcome distraction from all this!

I went to see my psychiatrist today and she's increasing my AD dose a bit, so hopefully that will help me feel a little less decimated.

H&I are seeing our MC on Wed, to discuss S, since that's the only thing he will discuss. I am still so resistant to the idea and not sure how to cooperate when I am feeling so hurt and angry.. My feeling right now is that H must do the talking when we tell our Ds and he must acknowledge that this is his decision. I am not going to turn him into a monster or anything, but I know that if I pretend this is mutual, it's going to come out somehow later that H was the one. I'd rather we be upfront about that. Plus, the kids can SEE which of us is still loving and which of us has cut off all affection.

I also feel strongly that for the time being, H should not come to our house other than to do kid pick up and drop off. I don't want him here gardening or working in the basement. He needs to really see just how much he is separating from me/us and our home. No cake-eating! I also feel like it would be very confusing for my Ds to have him hang around and then leave for the night. That would be hard on them.

The thing is, does H have a legal right to come to our house since we co-own it? I REALLY need him to stay away for a while once he leaves.