WB you will be pleased to know that I am starting to practice what you preach!
I received an email today from H. He had clearly read my email from two or so weeks ago b/c he had just clicked reply (about events kids are involved in). I was expecting his reply to say he was either attending or not. It didn't even mention any of the events. It was just to tell me that the money he usually gives me as a top up cheque he has paid directly into the bank and has arranged for the standing order to be upped from next month's payment.
So it seems like he no longer wants to use that as an excuse for calling round! Maybe he was going to give it me on Saturday when he called but when I didn't comply with how he thought it might go in his head he has changed his mind. Who knows (or cares as long as I get paid).
Anyway I typed in thank you as a reply. I was going to add something about the events I had notified him about but I didn't. I just decided that if he wasn't polite enough to let me know if he was coming that was his problem and I wasn't going to ask him twice. He deserved the thank you. He didn't deserve anything else.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15