Tree, don't take this the wrong way - but it sounds like you are trying to convince yourself that you are detaching and that you will be fine.

If detaching is really what you want to do, you need to read up on it and really get your head around it.

Detaching means truly being able to step outside of yourself and look at the sitch with very little emotion. It means doing what is truly best for you, for your wife, for your kids and for your marriage. It means you don't go to your room and cry when something nasty happens. It means KNOWING you will be OK, no matter what happens.

I may be wrong, but I am not getting that feeling from your recent posts.

Once again, please don't take it wrong, I'm just trying to help.

Me: 54
Her: 50 and sexy as hell
M: 32yrs
T: 34yrs
Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection"
Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire"
She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08!
Everything's GREAT!