...and I couldn't say it better than sofar did frank.

No more babysteps.

It's more like: today, her behavior towards me was positive and anyday that she treats me this way and we get along and parent OK...is a better day than when she treats me like bird guano.

Star Trek..Spectres of the Gun..if you believe the bullets are real, they will kill you.

Yes, frank...let her work out her life herself now. Still, you don't have to be nasty or 'throw her out'. You just need to be you and start to enjoy the feeling of having more control of your life. When you start doing things because YOU want to...without concern of how she will react..and when you can do things nice for her, because on THAT day you WANT TO without needing to ...then, you there. And..from what I hear...it sounds like you are on your way.

Don't forget...expect bad days. They happen. We all get them. They will become less....fewer and far between.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;