This just applies to my particular situation, but I found that when I set clear, strict boundaries, my ex thinks alot more about what he is doing and looks deeper within himself. He also becomes a little bit more nicer.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
