It seems like your h pops over to your house most nights. Is it on a certain schedule? If not, I think it might help you if you were to set up a visitation schedule. I know he doesn't have a place that he can take the kids to, but it's not good for you to have him coming and going whenever he wants. Maybe it's a good time to draw up a more formal plan? I considered this for myself a few months back, when things weren't gong so well. Maybe if you treated it as a more traditional separation, he would start to feel the reality of it. If you were to get D'd, then he certainly wouldn't be able to come and go whenever he wants.
Just an idea. Feel free to ignore me! I hope your cold is better and you're having a great day!
