My initial reaction to all 3 of your emails is that it's all too much too soon. I feel you have had months to come terms with and make plans for your future; I'm still reeling from the shock to be honest. It has only been a month. You may have moved out and moved on, but I feel that myself and the children are months behind you.
I agree that communication is very important, more so now and more especially where the children are concerned, especially the boys. I don't want to tell you stuff to pressure you but because I want you to share my worries and concerns, especially Sam. He's ok when he's busy, but at night and often, he's upset and cries. I do my best to reassure him but I can't tell him what he wants to hear.
Separation and house moving are two of the most stressful things a person can experience. I have had a very stressful year and I really do not want the added stress of losing my home as well right now. Whilst I agree that in the long term it may be a good idea to sell the house, I would like for the next 12-18 plus months to be able to stay in the house. I'm not ready to think about selling the house, the children and I are still adjusting to the new circumstances and I feel we all need as much stability as possible at the moment and I think another 12 months or so won't make that much difference. I would like to sit still for the time been and take some time for reflection and recovery. You are pushing to hard and too fast and it's too soon.
House Maintenance Issues - are you still prepared to help maintain the home and gardens?
There is fence panel broken at the back of the garden, do you want me to sort out with the neighbours and get someone in to mend it or will you come round and speak to the neighbor and sort?
We also need a new stair carpet, are you happy for me to go ahead and arrange a replacement, paid for out of the business?
The landing is in need of painting too. Would you be able to help decorate over the Witsun holiday?
Business
Not sure what I want to do about the business, i have put my heart and sole into it over the last 14 years, so for now I'm not about to let it go. I do know I would like some security, so joint names may be a good idea, however, I'm not prepared to take on the books weekly to keep up with a ltd company, I have enough responsibilities already, maybe that's something that you could be responsible for if we go ltd? Have you sought legal advice on going Ltd? it may not be finiancial viable to go Ltd, I want to know what the legal implications are before I sign anything.
I take exception to the comment that I have lost enthusiasm for the business. I have always done a good job and to the best of my ability and I'm only sorry that my hard work, commitment, conscientiousness and the pressure has cost me my marriage.
Would you also consider take over the wages please?
I also think that for now, unless it's bills/car/petrol or presents for the family, that casual spending on the business has to be controlled, we need to agree on spenditure. When you said you wanted a laptop, i was expecting the amount to be around £400.00, not £750.00, that was a huge amount.
The accounts need to go to (accountant)asap, can I ask that you sort out the stuff for him please?
Boys - Can you have them an extra Wednesday, overnight on 4th June please?
To avoid any miscommunication or upsetting S1, I would appreciate a text or call from you, rather than a 3 way conversation through him if you want to know/make arrangements/plans/pick up times etc.
Boys bedtimes - normally I try and have S2 in bed 6.30 - 6.45 and S1 I try to get in bed 7.00-7.15, although he takes a while to settle, he needs quiet time to unwind.
I have no idea what my holiday plans are, I mainly live day to day at the moment.
Good idea to give notice for S2 at nursery, maybe you can do that as you see them daily? Can I have a copy of any correspondence that you give to nursery?
S1 & S2 have Monday 5th May off and S2 also has the morning of Tuesday 6th May off as the nursery is closed.
Witsun week is week commencing Monday 26th - Friday 30th May. Again the nursery is shut on Monday and Tuesday (26 & 27th)
