Maybe if your MIL is ever brave enough to step outside the box H will have to face all that he has done. I know my MIL will never do this and I suspect from what you've said about yours that she won't either. It's a shame b/c I'm pretty certain that neither of them brought thier sons up to have the morals they are currently exhibiting.
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I feel that the way MIL is reacting to her son now offers me insight into how he has been taught to deal with conlift and crisis situations ......... just stick your head in the sand, ignore the issues and carry on doing whatever makes you feel better to take your mind off the greater issue.
ACJ, I'm sure you will agree that my H is very much avoiding issues.
MIL called today just to say hello, in convo she asked quite a few things, when I told her H knows all this hasn't he told you.
She then revealed that H doesn't let her in on his life, he doesn't tell her much about anything.
I told her that if she wanted to know how her grandsons were then she should just ask me, she didn't need to be a stranger,
The convo felt so pre bomb, it was not strained, I felt she was sincere.
So in all this time MIL has been in the dark as well, from her tone it would seem that she is a little frustrated with H. I think she is beginning to feel safe to talk with me again, I shall just be open with her, so hopefully we will have a friendly relationship in the future.
As a result of hitting a nerve H asked his L to contact me and suggest I back off from sending info that upset him and cause him distress.
Our son has been seriously ill, H's L has suggested that in keeping H informed I have clearly achieved my goal of causing their client distress and that their client would like to be involved but wasn't able to be at this time. etc etc.
So I have now decided to completly back off, I have over the passed 12 months passed on info relating to our sons and business, but quite clearly this is not welcomed.
But at least my L now has a clear picture of what I am dealing with, so do my family and MIL. H has just shot himself in the foot and his L helped him do it.
