Trixi, I wouldn't worry about the marks because you had them when he first fell in love with you, right? They were a part of the "you" that he married and loved, they are a part of you now.

I'm the opposite of you and the nakedness thing, yet I now find myself to be more concerned about my body than ever and it's looking better than when we even met ten years ago. Yet in my heart of hearts, I know that I am physically who I am. That doesn't change. I own my body, my body owns me. Everything my body shows, I've lived, I've earned, I've suffered through, I've gained. Revel in your body, it's yours and yours alone.

MM, I know what you mean about the bathroom door! At first H would close it but now I noticed that not only is he leaving the door open, he's holding conversations with me while in there and today even said, "What? Come closer, I didn't hear what you said." (baby steps for us?)


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.