If you can be gentle with yourself with that self-administered 2x4, I think you might be on to something. Like Mink says, maybe it can be a graduated change toward a better balance on this for you.
My W. once joked (maybe not a joke) back in the good old days that maybe she needed one husband for sex, adventure, passion / romance, etc etc, and one (ie. me) for being loving, responding of her emotional needs, being solid and dependable.
Great. Sounds like cake eating and fantasy. Unless polygamy is on the menu, I don't see that working.
