Have you looked at the Retrouvaille website, http://www.helpourmarriage.org? You are right, it is not enough for him to just be physically home. It is possible that a Retrouvaille weekend could help you very much. You and your husband are in the Misery stage of a relationship. This is a crossroads. From here you can either work together to repair the marriage and move to a much better relationship, or move along the road to divorce. But staying in the same place will bring more pain and no solution. A Retrouvaille weekend and learning the communication skills that they teach there was the turning point that saved my marriage. It can save your marriage too.
