it hurts and I dont see H coming around in fact, he seems set I think they dont file as another from of avoidance what do you think? like why do it now, if you can pospone it another few years and why do they want to be friends? why not never communicate again? there is something that keeps them coming back besides the kids??they cant let go of the connection, but they cant return, so they pick this space in the middle probably another form of avoidance again to really end the R maybe they can avoid the pain ( that we feel) by staying somewhere in the middle i dont know
peace, I so feel your pain. I have been at this 12months. And you are so right...I think... In my sitch though I wonder alot if the reason my H doesn't file is because this sitch works just perfect for him. He still auto deposits his check I worry and pay for the bills. I am taking care of the house and kids. He has his OW to fulfill his needs. He can do whatever he wants whenever he wants and doesn't have to answer to anyone. And if he or I files for D he knows that this farm (his family farm) will be gone. So why file? And by not filing he doesn't have to admit to himself or others that HE got a D. Something he always swore he'd never do.
I am so sorry for your pain and I wish you all the best... TOH
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
