Alison - I'm really pleased you've got yourself to a place where you are going to get teh financails sorted and protect yourself financially. I know that has been a big fear of yours and I am proud of you for the progress you've made.

Now my friend comes the hard part. Girlfriend you gotta detach from that man. It's doing your head in.

Detach. Detach. Detach.

You need to stop giving the decisions he makes any power over you or your life.

I know that's difficult when those decisions directly affect your life - i.e. taking a break with all the kids looked after at the same time - but there are other things he does that you really need to let go.

That stuff about the tents - that's between him and D12. The party - that's about him and D17. Detach Alison, because as long as you are 'attached' or 'affected' by his carry on you give him a whole load of power over your life and you don't need that.

You are so strong now Ally and so smart. I suspect it's not going to be until you detach from him, that he will notice you are alive. He knows that he affects you and he pushes your buttons ... like

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He asked her what time I would be attending the party and to let him know and he would attend after me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
you don't think he knows that won't get back to you? This stuff is designed to hurt you - and until you get to a place where it can't touch you he wins.

You can do this Alison. I know you can.

V

Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.