Yep, I thought about that too and wrote on my white board at work that on March 31, I did a 180. But it hurts. It's so against me. But I have to tell you I'm feel like I'm sinking. On Easter one of my brother's had a heart attack. He's doing okay - I guess but it got to me. The same a day a friend of the family died. They put a feeding tube in my mom five weeks ago and today my dad tells me they have found cancer in her system. I have a co-worker at work causing problems for a lot of us...I'm wondering if he's having a MLC. We're declaring bankruptcy. Ummm, on and yeah, my H is going through his MLC!!! I'm sure that a lot of my comments to my husband are reactive to what's going on in our lives. I want to have control somewhere and setting boundaries was the place. Just hope I can stick to my boundaries.
Come on - you have to laugh. This is getting commical now. My brother went for his check up after his heart attack today. He had an aneurysm, at the site of entry where they go into the body so they can fix the clogged arteries, they had to send him to the hospital.
I used to think I was on a rollar coaster ride. Now I feel like the ball in a pin ball machine. BUT - I'm going to make it.
honestly (i don't know how long your H has been gone)what difference does it make if you make him mad at this point. If you said what you meant and meant what you said, that is all that should be important to you.
i guess with me, I am to the point that I am so tired of trying to say the right thing or afraid to say the wrong thing. when really nothing I do or say really matters or makes a difference with H.
shouldn't the most important thing be doing what is right for US not them.
hang in there... TOH
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
S I know it is hard as my mom is sick also for the last 6 months and she is declining every week I feel all the issues are also one big issue but we will get thru it peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Well, Thursday it was my turn at the hospital. I'm in the process of passing a kidney stone. I drove myself to the hospital...I was driving home from dinner with friends and I was in so much pain...I was closer to the hospital than home. The pain was different from the last 4 stones I've passed so I didn't recognize it as a kidney stone.
My husband was out of town but did answer his phone. I didn't have my insurance info on me and he did. The hospital had to call him to verify it.
TOH - My H dropped the bomb on me 12/10/2006. He's still at home sleeping in the guest room. He could move to the basement but won't/doesn't.
He needs some healing time from his childhood...I believe that and can understand why with his childhood. That could take a long time - many years and then he will have to heal from what he's doing to our relationship.
The last several weeks he has let me dump my crap on him from stuff that is happening at the office. When I apologize to him he just says that it's okay and that he can take it. I'll have to say that as a friend he's been there for me the last several weeks. As a husband...he just doesn't want to be there. I can tell that things are improving. If he would just let go of the OW. Argh!
Peace We will get through this. Thank goodness God is there to help us.
All, The time has come for me to let go of my addiction...and that is to this place. I come here for comfort...when I feel that God wants me to come to him alone now. I am so glad that this bb was here when I needed it.
God has moved the last person, that I talked to physically regarding my situation, from my life. (Not removed - just moved.) Again, I feel that I am to go to God alone.
I have to let go of everything so that we (my husband and I) can move on. I don't know how long it will take for him to come back to the family but he will. But it will happen easier for both of us when I am relying only on God. I may be back but for now I'm going to try to make it NO CONTACT for six months. My best to all of you. I will pray for you.
Hi snow- Sorry to hear about your kidney stone...I hear they are painful.
I can understand the addiction of this board but remember it truly helpful in times on need. I hope things improve with your H. Stop by from time to time to give us an update.
