Stronger - but still confused

[Snow White]

Why are those your only two options? D4 was being taken care of, you should have left the food on the table, beautifully set, candles burnt down to the stumps and snuffed out for good dramatic effect, and went out and did something for NEECY, and NOT let your husband know where you are going. Why do you keep pursuing him? Can you see where this is not helping you?? He boorishly blows you off, when YOU are there making him a birthday dinner, and then you go chase him and buy HIM, a beer? WTF???

I know, I must seem like the biggest idiot, I just wanted to be nice on his birthday. How did that work out for me?

Well he wasn't at home so I continued driving towards the adjacent town where OW lives.

Why???

I guess because I wanted to know, just like snooping the phone bill or anything else, I have nothing to indicate the H has a physical relationship with her and he left the bar and didn't go home. Now I know he was on his way there becuase of where he got pulled over, I think it was to drive by and stalk her because when I dorve by her house was in total darkness, didn;t look like she was waiting for a visitor. Really who cares now?

On my way I get a call from H to come get him. He has been pulled over by the police. It was almost exactly where I was so I pulled right in.

He only charged him with speeding, he said he should have charged DUI but it would have resuled in losing his DL for a year and 10 - 15000 in fines. Very strict in Ontario.

[quote]Oh good. So the law enforcement authorities enable his bad behavior, too. How helpful. NOT!!!{/quote]

I probably should have left him there but I was scared, we live pay cheque to pay cheque, we really can't afford the $150 he did get fined not to mention however much it is going to be to fix my car. There is no way to afford $15000 and H losing his job because he lost his license.

End of 2-by-4, but if you were my dear sister, that is what I would tell you. I'm sorry you're going thru this.

Much appreciated