Your H sounds so much like mine....except mine doesn't complain to the kids (as far as I know) ...but he does shove ow into their lives, and yes, I'm sure it's to show them how happy and healthy they are together and what a wonderful life they now have with him and ow...YUK !
I think you are wise not to react or engage !
I too have distanced and have set some boundaries.
I am no longer afraid of him getting mad at me.
I am no longer afraid of divorce either.
I'm just enjoying life as it comes now, without wondering what stupid things he may be up to !
Take care ! You're so strong ! I'm so proud of you and I'm sure the kids will love Disney with you !!! You can do all the stuff they 'missed' with H !!!!
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus