Thanks and I see you points I guess the label of the behaviour does not matter its wrong no matter how you look at it.
As for what I am going to do my thread link is at the bottom if your interested. I really am just going to treat her as a friend while detatching from her, which she is making the detatching easier to do. I am going to try and keep the door open as long as I can. I also think her R with OM is currently failing, which in itself doesn't really matter unless she uses it as a chance to really come to grips with her own issues.
