I am completely in agreement w/ you on this. I told the parenting evaluator that things haven't been the same since her hysterectomy. I think it has thrown her into an early mid-life crisis and she is viewing all of our time together as "wasted" so she needs to start anew. I feel stongly the OM is feeding these thoughts and I can only hope his true colors will come out and she'll have some sort of a revelation. However, I'm not too positive this will ever occur, to tell the truth.
W said she felt they "broke something in me" when they took out her uterus. She also said she used to hide all of her "pain" in her uterus b/c of the endo. She now is upset that she has no place to stuff her bad feelings. These were her words before the affair got hot and I was served, so I'm 100% convinced this is related to her hysterectomy.
However, unless she wants to get back into the counseling she's cancelled and have her gynocologist get involved, there isn't much I can do. I'm sad b/c I think I can help and support her through this b/c the problem seems fixable w/ guidance and effort.
I just don't see W "waking up" or "snapping out of it" any time soon, especially not in time to stop the D from happening.
