Time for optimism ??

[minkerman]

Changing things is good. But don't pull the rug right out from under her...just change something, watch what happens over the next week or two, then make your next move based on that.

If she is ever to come back, she needs to know that it is safe, with no games or guilt trips going on.

Remember the DR book regarding LRT - don't accept all invitations to be together, don't initiate all contact. That doesn't mean to fall of the edge of the earth...just change things up a bit.

Good luck.