Wow, side. Sounds like you finally got some truth from H. Hurts, but darnit, its sooo much better than feeling in the dark. I am so sorry, I know its horrible to picture H with OW and them living together.
The thing is, right now, there is nothing you can do. The answer to your question is yes, H can come back to you and realize he has made bad choices. But the thing is, you can't hurry the process up, you can't rush anything, and it might not happen. You have to move on, acting as if you are divorced. I debate daily whether to file for divorce, but figure I have time, and until I am not debating anymore, I can wait. Some people on here say "Let them do the work, let them file", but everyone will do what feels right to them, whether that's file themselves or just wait.
I am sorry I have no real pearls of wisdom, I just wanted to offer you my support.
