Stronger - but still confused

[theotherhalf]

neecy,

what everyone is telling you is sooo true...but...I understand why you bailed him out...why you took ALL of the crap and then was still there for him...

but they are right. We have to stop. I have done the same for my H just a week ago. It's who I am and I didn't do anything I wouldn't have done for a freind. But the fact of the matter is. These men don't deserve us. They don't deserve our help. They've made the choice to throw us away like yesterdays garbage. So they should be on their own to pick up their messes.

I tell myself I helped H because I love him. Because I didn't want him to get OWI. To lose his DL. To have all that expense. But in the end I probably did in for the most part to try and show him that I am there for him. In another effort to win him back. I got nothing in return. It left him like a child that did something very wrong and got away with it. So he learned NOTHING.

Neecy we have to STOP being their scape goats. Stop making things easy for them. Let them go to be ALONE.

Ask yourself "would H be there for me if the shoes were on the other feet?" I don't know about yours but mine...H*ll NO!! He would laugh and yell because I am so stupid.

Be strong!!

TOH