Oh my gosh. I am so sorry, what a horrible horrible night for you. I really would love to come tear your H a new one. I agree with Abbey that your H is lost and confused, guilty and in pain, and drinking does nothing for that sort of mindset. I was all set to give you a scolding for 'following' H up to his bar after he stood you up for dinner, but none of that matters after I kept reading.
You know what you need to do. Be strong and do it. No one is allowed to treat you that way, and your D4 is innocent and helpless. Its up to you to protect her Mommy and herself from these violent behaviors.
