He has told me thru tears 2 years later. I was very hard to be with. That my moral conviction, was something that he could not stand up to.
That hurt me and screwed me up for a long while, I still get flash backs of it.
But, what can I do? I have changed what i think was wrong, but my morals will not change for anyone.
Ah Liss,
I think a lot of the WAS feel like that, and it really doesn't say anything bad about you. If you put your "goodness" in his face everyday knowingly, in order to be mean, that would be one thing. But if you just live your life as a good person, that's nothing to be ashamed of or change about yourself. The fact that he felt he couldn't live up to that is not your fault.
I'm sure my stbx felt the same way. He used to tell me repeatedly, with a sort of awe, that I'm such a good person. I was like, I'm just a person. I'm not perfect. But when someone feels bad about themselves, they can often see a reflection of their worst self in someone else's goodness.
J was so lucky to have you for the years that he did, and he does know it, Liss, he does.
Love, Nicola
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