Stronger - but still confused

[Snow White]

Last night was horrible. I had to drop D4 off at a birthday party yesterday afternoon. As soon as I left so did H over to his ahngout bar. Called to say he met up with some friends(his birthday) he would be home in a half hour. At 4 I texted him to ask if I should bother putting on the roast I had bought for his birthday dinner, he said yes. At 5 I texted to let him know it was done and waiting. At 6 I went and took my D to my parents house since we were supposed to be going out together and one way or another I figured it was still better D4 wasn't home.

At 7 I decided to get ready to go out and went to the bar to buy H a beer instead of sitting home stewing. He was drunk, happy to see me but not the least bit appologetic about completley missing his birthday dinner. We stayed for awhile, a friend of his kept buying drinks, 2 guys came in I was sure were gay so I was talking it up with them, H got all mad that I was trying to pick them up and left. I realized he was gone and left as well. Well he wasn't at home so I continued driving towards the adjacent town where OW lives. On my way I get a call from H to come get him. He has been pulled over by the police. It was almost exactly where I was so I pulled right in. He then freaked and accused me of sending the police for him. The police officer asked if I would be ok to take him home - I thought so. He only charged him with speeding, he said he should have charged DUI but it would have resuled in losing his DL for a year and 10 - 15000 in fines. Very strict in Ontario. H gets in the car still blaming me for this happening. On the way home he threw everything in his pockets at me, threw the car into neutral a couple of times, grabbed the wheel and jerked it, broke the windshield wiper control right off ripped out the wires and everything. And in the midst of my shreaking and yelling told me that he hated me and tried to choke me at one point. He has never been the least bit violent or even nasty drunk or otherwise, he has never said anything like that before. When we got home I went inside and locked the door, he broke the lantern outside, I let him in before he broke anything else, he went in the bathroom, locked the door and threw everything around, dents in the door, broke 2 of my angels and chunks out of the drywall. My one knuckle is black this morning so I must have got a shot in there that I don't remember it is like a horrible blur. Thank God D4 wasn;t here. We still have to go back and get his car this morning.