You are being a rock for W and for your kids. I read this and thought the idea was nice:
In the movie The Horse Whisperer, a horse name Pilgrim is seriously injured in an accident, leaving him physically mentally and emotionally scarred. His vet, believing the animal is beyond help recommends putting the animal out of his misery. But unwilling to give up on her horse, Pilgrims owner solicits help from a horse whisperer a man with an unusually deep affinity and understanding of horses. Even though he, too, feel Pilgrim may be too severely traumatized to recover, he agrees to help.
Attempting to soothe the horse and earn his trust, the horse whisperer works with Pilgrim but is unable to curb his rebellion. When the horse becomes agitated and upset, the mans lets him go without trying to hinder him.
Free to go where he wants, Pilgrim races into the pasture and stands a considerable way off. In silence the horse whisperer sits, watching and waiting. For hours neither moves. Finally, Pilgrim turns and looks back to see that the man is still there, then whinnies and begins drifting back toward him. A few feet shy however, Pilgrim stops. The two lock eyes. Without stirring, the horse whisperer waits silently. Pilgrim steps closer, hesitates then again moves in the man's direction. When he is finally in the man's presence the horse lowers his head and nudges the man's arm, at last trusting the horse whisperer to lead him through the healing process.
The only thing you can do right now is to sit and wait. Your mate may run away and remain distant for a while, expecting you to take some kind of action. But when s/he sees that you are not pursuing her/him, not running from her/him, not creating a new set of circumstances for her/him to deal with - when s/he sees you waiting patiently in love to allow her/him time to heal, s/he may come around to open up the communication lines again. (By Linda W Rooks)
