.. refer to "Kevin" as my husband, as Dad, as my spouse.. not impersonal initials or derogatory names. For me, WAS is a constant slap, reminding me that oopps.. he DID walk away. I mean really.. do I need to be reminded of that? Stop gonging yourself with the frying pan, Gypsy!
.. take parenting classes for couples in conflict. I'm halfway through the state mandated one for divorcing couples and what a godsend it's been! It gets the focus back on what's most important.. the health and well being of your children.
.. try not to dissect the relationship, "Kevin's" every action or word.. now and in the past. That's like scrubbing an open wound with an electric sander.
.. share and feel the emotions with those I trust and when they come up.
.. do it for ME.. cuz that's the only way to build a solid foundation.
Y'all are the best... give yourself a pat on the back and big ole hugs.
