maybe he things the path back to you would be too difficult and is looking for you to make it a little easier for him? Maybe he maybe looking for a sign from you that you want him back in life, he may think that you have moved on so much without him that you wouldn't want him back?
I would acknowledge the gift, maybe a friendly text to start? It sounds like a lot of thought went into it. He was obviously thinking of you to buy you a gift, he didn't have too.
I think the work on the house, inside and out is positive, mental housekeeping we call it, it's so good for you and will make you feel mentally lighter. Not sure if I would pack up H's things yet, unless you are really ready for that?
More later, we have had a downfall of snow and the kids are calling to play.
Let me know how the text/call goes.
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P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07