Good post on martyr. Though many here are in difficult circumstances refusing to be a victim whereas you may been wronged but do not wallow in the pity is huge step in healing.
The above does not include normal grieving for a death or a loved one or a relationship. That's a process. Refusing to move though that process falls under your post. Though the process does take some time and for some a lot of time.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
