RTL, I am sure you are aware the surgery took away more than just organs, it is hard for a woman to know she can't have more children while still of child bearing years. It also takes a piece of your identity. Maybe she didn't fully deal with it at the time and all this is the result. I had a friend who had a hysterectomy much later in life but had not gone through menopause. She also had one daughter and didn't want any more kids. But it still sent her into an emotional upheaval that was awful.I remember at one point she went off on a vacation with a cousin and called me and said she wasn't coming back, going to leave her husband and buy a condo . BTW they had a wonderful marriage. It didn't matter, she was determined. After a week ,I called her and told her she had better get back because I had been to her house and her husband had the sink piled with dishes and her daughter was skipping school and driving her car, She was home real fast. Sadly , she is gone , it was cancer, but I remember the 2 years after the hysterectomy. My best friend became someone who I didn't recognize. She did get C and we laughed about it later.But, she said , the surgically induced menopause was absolutely devastating. Just some thoughts on possible causes for your W's behavior
