I've come to agree w/ you that she is scared and grasping here. I have deducted she had a session w/ the parenting evaluator and the topic of D referring to OM by an incorrect name came up and W was quick to put the blame for this squarely on to me.
I'm guessing things didn't go so incredibly well b/c she was full of piss and vinegar last night. Nut mentioned this may have been aided by the wine she was undoubtedly drinking and I've got to say I know he's right. W is depressed and she has a problem w/ alcohol. That combo, combined w/ a session where she may have begun to see some of the writing on the wall about custody, may very well be the reason for last night. NOT ME. HER.
Thanks for affirming that I'm doing the right thing by not responding. It is very difficult not to say something in return, and even though I know a no response is the best response, it is nice to hear it from you all out there. It just helps to solidify that what I'm doing is right.
As Nut mentioned, the Alien may or may not soften in time. That choice will be completely up to her and her alone. However, as you all point out, I don't have to let that Alien control me.
I'm working on breaking away from her and detaching, but it is diffcult, scary, lonely, and painful. I know why people throw in the towel - b/c it is easier to walk away rather than fight.
I can't let my D know I didn't fight for her, or for me as well. What message would that to her about how to go through life? The answer is the wrong one.
