You are a really good friend to me. I'm glad you decided to read my post and respond. You are very grounded in your posts and I have benefitted greatly from what you've said.
As I'm looking back at yesterday, it does seem as if W was and still is very, very desperate and her e-mail from last night was another attempt to bait me and/or intimidate me into giving her something she wants.
I know I've let her shake my confidence in myself and that is mostly because I'm still expecting her to be half-way decent. That is my problem completely - EXPECTATIONS on her behavior. I have to remember to completely remove any and all expections I have on W being decent w/ me. It is very hard to do b/c of who she was and no longer is as well as how much love we had b/t us for so long.
I know I'm doing the best I can for D in this situation. I can only work on me and on my being honest and straight-forward w/ the situation and hope that the justice system will get it right in the end.