Very good responses! Thank you dogma, Beth, GD, AG, alpha_omega. I'm digesting these. I thought they were helpful. And honestly, I truly thought I might get jaded responses. Kudos to you. I suppose I'm the jaded one. :p
Don't worry, I ask my W yesterday what she felt about it. Her response, "I can only work on me. When I feel like this I think about what I need to do and not what you need to do for me, pooper." Of course, the last isn't that great of a pet name.
Actually, along the lines of what she said to me, this morning I considered something I wrote on someone else's thread.
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It's when you can learn to be humble enough to admit that maybe this really ISN'T all about you, and you can stop taking all of your partner's actions and moods personally. When you can let them talk to you, vent their anger, thoughts, and feelings to you, without you feeling that it's all your fault, and that you can "fix" it, and that you can make it all better. Or that they really WANT you to make it all better. Or, that you even have the power to do that.
I quoted that..I didn't write it. But I guess I didn't read it. This morning I realized that it's exactly what I've been doing...taking things personally, and making it about me. It isn't.
Thank you all for giving me some tools. And if all else fails, I'll "push her down on the playground and pull her hair."
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
