Good luck to you in court! It sounds like you have a good attitude and wisdom as well.
I think talking with women and even meeting some you might want to date eventually is fine and healthy. I know when I was in divorce I met some guys I thought might have future dating potential. But like you, I didn't feel it was fair to get involved with anyone until the divorce was final. Hey, if it's meant to be they will still be there when you are ready... and if not.... well, it wasn't meant to be.
I think focusing on your son and custody, getting through whatever legal stuff you need to, and taking care of yourself is probably the best course.
But don't forget to stay calm, emotionally detached (read up on detachment in this forum... there is really helpful stuff here), and concentrate on keeping everything very business-like and emotion-free in court (regardless of what W does!!!). Always take the "high road." You will come across as more mature and responsible.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
