She likes it when you remember to do stuff around the house.
She likes movie nights.
This is where people get stuck. They both are stepping into what they thought was the solution. The cycle starts here.
She backs off. You get confused. You back off. You have been showing her something different all along. Keep doing it. The thing I have learned is your life will be filled with DB'ing for the rest of your life. Using what you have learned and applying better "tools". You can't grow if you keep doing the same things over and over. You need to expand your skill set.
I have saved this one for a while.
Its about Love and Respect. The more you show her you Love her, the more she will Respect you. This again will compound just as it does the other way. Your job is to Love her. Even with all her flaws. In doing so she will respond with Respect. She will be endeared to you. The more she Respects you the easier she will be to love.
You both have flaws. You both have done stupid things. You were not showing her Love and in return she did not Respect you.
When you look at the words it looks funny. You may say I need Love too. Let me point out that thru all this stuff did you really doubt that she loved you? Maybe for a "minute". She had herself convinced that you did not Love her. She could not see it, she could not feel it, she could not hear it. In that she lost Respect for who you were.
If you can show her you Love her in a way she understands you will never have to worry about this place again.
Some of the things that have happened in my life that have changed things around are as follows.
I kiss my wife everyday before I go to work. I have done it so much I don't even have to think about it anymore.
I try and stay up so that when she gets home from work we can talk. I have noticed she is coming in earlier and earlier. Our talks are longer.
I say thank you a lot. She does too.
When she asks me to do something I don't find it a bother anymore.
I hate text messaging. She likes to communicate that way. She texts me everyday asking about work.
Just a few things. I find she is seeking me out. Well, actually we are both seeking each other.
We just celebrated our 14 year anniversary. I took her to the Outback we used to go to when we were dating.
She has been talking about leaving her job. She says the people there have to much "Drama". These are the same people she was "going out" with 6 months ago.
Things are not perfect. We have money, kids, job, friends issues. But we have a good start. It gets better and better every day. She just left for work and she came out and game me a kiss and a hug and said see you tonight.
It is the simple things. As hard as it is to imagine.. It is.
Don't fall into the same old thing routine. Put your thinking cap on and come up with something you could do to make her see, feel and hear it. It could be something so simple as a pat of the but every time you walk by.
There is an old military saying.... KISS it.
Keep It Simple Stupid.
It applies in real life too. Don't look to be grand. Just something simple, that she connects to your Love.
Last edited by Forrest Gump; 04/05/0809:27 PM.
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