who feels insecure?

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"And H seems to take every opportunity to say what a good person she is, how right she is for him, how she will be a part of his life, etc."

Tell him good luck with that. Sounds like an amateur psychology project--definitely the case in my H's situation. Life will take care of it all.

Maybe he does need a different type--someone nuts. MLCers are nutty and need nutty people to prop them up.

I found that taking H to counseling was a waste of time, so I won't initiate that kind of thing again. The other day he spewed about some dumbass thing and said "I don't like you." I said "I don't care." I think that shocked him. That sort of comment used to hurt me deeply. It doesn't any more.

I think of it as dealing with an adultalescent. Teenagers say all kinds of mean nasty things because they are teenagers (stomp foot). I wish I could make him stand in the corner or take away the car keys, but again, time and life take care of these things.

I have lost some self-confidence in some ways, but H was so nasty and complaining before he left that I certainly don't miss THAT person.

Plus I ordered more supplemental wardrobe items today, so that was a damn good feeling!!

Trying to be as dark as I can with a very small child. I hope I'll be out of here today before H shows up.