Moving here with H and OW

[gForce]

I don't have any magic for making this time better for you. I did exactly what you did and every message I read tore my heart in two. It ate away at me and made it very difficult for me to act "as if" everything was OK. But believe me, I know the terrible feeling of reading loving words from your spouse, sent to someone else.

You should not just "keep waiting", though. Keep working on the changes that you have identified in yourself that you want to improve. Make sure your sons are loved and cared for. Your H is focused on OW, not his family, and this is probably a difficult time for them. Don't be passive, be active in improving yourself. That will enable you to be better prepared for H if realizes his mistake, or a better person for your next R.

Good luck. My heart goes out to you.