WAS-I could use some input!

[whitneypinch]

hi, thanks for that. unfortunately that is the opposite to my WAW. She left in Dec. and has not said a single word about us. All we talk about is the kids. She wants us all to be close friends for the kids. When she has the kids she sends me photos of them off her phone and asks me to do that same. She says she is very happy now and wishes me to find happiness. I have done it all, 180's, GAL, in shape, great job, changed who I am. I have been doing therapy. EVERYTHING. It's been 4 months for us. She asked me yesterday if I wanted to come to an outdoor fair at my daughters school in 4 weeks. I said yes but was concerned what message it would send to our 2 kids (5 and 3). I am dying inside to just be able to talk to her about us but know not to. Sometimes I speak of my changes and she says she is happy for me.
It's like she is a piece of ice. Maybe it is still too soon. I go days without getting a text from her. All our texts are about our kids. Now that things have settled down she and I have been texting about co-parenting. We have worked out financial planning, spiting up responsibilities, and have identified better ways to communicate to each other so that no one is hurt or angry. Basically we have done EVERTHING that we should have when we were married, but did not.
I am just hurt inside so much that I just can't tell her anything. She knows I love her and would like to get back together. She makes sure that not a single word of encouragement come out her mouth towards me. She is very cold and calculated in that way. She knows if she slips that I will grab onto that as an opening to hope.