Wait...I'm confused. Are you still getting dinner and a movie, or just the dinner? Or did he totally bail on your whole plan? If he did bail, is it possible that he actually just forgot? I would be so disappointed, I hate it when people cancel plans on me (even when it's just a friend)! If it appears that he forgot and *he* was the one who suggested the date, perhaps you could gently remind him of your plan? If you don't get to go, I would be SURE to do something fun by yourself.
No, as far as I know we are still doing dinner and a movie.. but it seems he's going to kick my butt out of the car pronto after the movie so he can proceed to where he really wants to be.. with his bar friends.
Thanks for posting though ladies. Glad I have this board to vent to.
Gotta run. My Mom is here. She's going to watch D2 for me so I can go out and buy myself a hot new pair of jeans!!
I am glad that you are still going to dinner and a movie, sad about his hangout with friends afterwards. But maybe we could try to Not Assume here? Maybe he feels obligated to hang out with his friends, or maybe he is afraid of your date turning into a sleepover so he feels the need to 'book himself' at another location? because you are so HOT AND IRRESISTABLE???!!!
Focus on the positives! Focus on the positives! Focus on the positives!
I thought he is going to hang out with his friends INSTEAD of going to dinner and movies with you. He is not, then, great I agree with Transformer, about him being afraid (and about you being HOT and IRRESISTABLE).
I hope you will have a nice dinner.
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Hi W2G, I would definitely have the same feelings you do but try to think of the positives. Your H does still want to go for dinner and a movie with you - a real date - try to make the best of it in your HOT new jeans. He may just want to take things slow - not too much all at once. He may want to hang out with his buddies because he won't be able to do that for a while.
Hope you have a great evening!!!
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"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
I would be upset too. But the girls have a point here. Maybe he is taking it slow. Maybe he didn't think about it. He may believe he can go with his friends because you need to be home with D2 and he can do both and everybody will be happy...
Just enjoy the night and knock him dead (not literately...)
The "old" me would be very upset. BUT the "new" me would "try" to roll with the flow. We may be jumping to conclusions here.
Also, have you considered that he might decide to continue the evening with you after the movie? Don't get your hopes up, but it's a possibility, right? My GF used to tell me that I always "expected" the worst outcome. Expect the best & you just might get it!
Yes, count your blessings. At least you're having a "date." Make the most of it. You know what to do.
I'll be praying for you. Good luck! Let us know how it turns out.
Just a quick post as my Mom is still here and she's making me a tea as we speak.
So H came over.. he was clean shaven.. don't know if it was for me or not but I'll say it was . He hung around the house.. made chit chat with my Mom, played with D2.. Gave my Mom a kiss on the cheek and said thanks for watching D2... We kissed D2 and then we were out the door.
I asked what time the movie was playing and he said 7:40.. but not to let that dictate our dinner... if we missed the movie we could go bowling or something instead.
We went out for steak.. on the menu they were showing a bunch of different crab dishes... which got me thinking that maybe I should pull out a 180 at dinner.. So once we sat down I suggested we get calamari or crab cakes for an appetizer. He said no, "if we're going to get an appetizer lets get something we both like." So I explained that I thought I would give it a really good try.. that it was time for me to step out of my comfort zone and try these things before turning my nose up at them. He seemed really pleased. We ordered the crab cakes and I have to say they weren't that bad. He also added crab legs to his steak order and shared that with me too.. It wasn't bad either. So over all, he was impressed with me and I was super impressed with me. Conversation was good.. light.. we had laughs... We had a beer and I did a toast to his new face.. and my new career direction.. and we said cheers and I took a sip.. then he said "wait, I'd also like to toast to us".. so I said that sounds like a great idea.. and we toasted our glasses again...
Once we were finished we proceeded to the theatre.. we grabbed a Starbucks on the way (mmmmmm yummy).. we enjoyed the movie.. and he brought me home.
I was SHOCKED when he got out of the car and came to the door with me. When he came in he went straight to the bathroom.. so I figured that's why he came in.. he then suggested we have a tea.. so I made him a tea and myself a tea and he had a couple of cookies and we just sat and talked..
He said he was going to head out so I walked him to the door.. We had a nice hug and a real kiss... he said he'd see me today. I asked that he call in the morning and let me know if he'll arrive before D2's bedtime.. because I don't want to tell her he's coming and then she not get to see him.. so he said that he would.
Overall, I think the night was very successful. I looked great. I felt great!. And in the end he left our house at 11:57pm. It's quite likely that he was still going to head to the bar (since they are open until 2 or 3 am) but he didn't just ditch me after the movie... so it was a good night and it didn't matter so much what he was going to do afterward.
That's it from me. My delivered my tea to me since I was taking so long to type this. I promise I'll come back and check on everyone after she heads home today (if D2 will let me ).
Thanks for concurring that you'd be hurt too... and that I should just focus on the positives. I love this board!! And I'm so grateful to all of you!!
. He hung around the house.. made chit chat with my Mom, played with D2.. Gave my Mom a kiss on the cheek and said thanks for watching D2... We kissed D2 and then we were out the door.