I told my husband directly when I moved out, that I wanted him to pursue me and date me as if we were newly involved - - in other words, I wanted him to go into hot pursuit, call me, ask me out, make out with me on dates, get himself dressed and spruced up, be prepared with stimulating topics to talk about, bring flowers (or other thoughtful gestures), charm me, talk to me like he was hot for me, things like that. As you said, all the stuff he didnt do when we were married! But most couples do these things when they are courting.
But without knowing your sitch, I can't say whether or not your wife wants you to go into full pursuit mode or not. Maybe to her that would seem stifling. So what has she said so far if anything? Has she told you upfront she wants you to pursue her?
