Out of the Blue?

[kturnernc]

Well thank you for all the thoughts during this time. The son is doing well and is out of the hospital. Things are getting back to their 'normal' chaotic routines. So I will give you a quick update on all that has happened...

I spent quite a few nights in the hospital and lots of time with the W sitting in the room with me alone. We really did not talk except for one time about us. All other things were obviously centered around the S8 in the hospital and what we needed to do with S2. The one little talk we did have was her bringing it up and telling me that I did not have to act like 'super-dad' and be there for everything. I told her that I had missed some things in the past with work and that it was not going to happen again. That I was going to be a better father and person. We also talked about a few other points, one of which was very interesting to me. She had a book store bag in shich there was a book about 'how to draw the love of your life to you'. I had seen it the day before when she told me to put something in the bag. She was acting all sneaky with the bag and I started smiling and kind of laughing. She asked me what was up and I responded that she did not have to be sneaky with the bag because I saw the book the day before. She told me it was not what I thought it was that her therapist told her to read it. Why would her therapist tell her to read it if she was not looking into dating? I told her that I am surprised that she was not dating anyone yet and that I am sure her friends were jumping at the bit to fix her up with others since they thought so much of her. She asked me if I was dating and told me that I would probably be dating a 24 year old or someone much younger, I responded with 'no, I am not even thinking about doing that at all right now'. After about another few seconds she started crying, when asked what was wrong, she told me that she was "feeling sick". I dropped it and started reading a paper.

Overall it was not too bad, there were a few times that her friends called or family came by and I was treated like I was not even there or existed. Son's godmother called and talked to him, then he handed the phone to me. I asked her if there were any questions she had or anything, she said no, then asked to speak to W's sister and ask her all the questions. I kind of expected that from her, she pretty much hates men overall, but it still hurt as I treat her very well and help her out.

Anyway, overall it went well, there were very few fights. And those were mainly because the Wife thought I was trying to push everyone else out and be the "Super-Dad". I wasn't, I was just being there for my son. I am glad that part is over and I am not forced to be around her family. Some are really nice and I would not mind keeping in touch with them, but a few of them are just... well, let's just say 'not very nice'.