W and I piecing this M back together #2

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Lan, I sense you're still walking on eggshells around W. W feels some guilt, but still 100% absorbed in her own feelings, has little sense of your pain. Can someone tell us if this dynamic ever gets reversed or is it something the LBS has to live with forever? If we have the wrong expectation it would add to the pain.

The reason I ask is that I talk to this couple who reconciled 10 years ago - at the time she filed D the H felt suicidal - but till today she blames him for that too - like it was blackmail instead of intense pain.