BT - When I was seperated I had a very similar experience at sons ballgame with W texting OM and sharing S7's success with him. He got his first hit left handed during the game and he was so proud, but she missed it. When I looked at her text log later she shared this with OM, she didn't even see it but wanted to tell OM what a great little ball player she had. (He is some big time softball player so she was showing off I think).
Anyhow, I remember thinking the same thing at that moment that I had just lost my W forever. I played in this big softball tourny that weekend and was voted tourney MVP, when she called I told her to which she replied that OM get's those all the time.
Anyhow, I know that it would fade and that if I changed for me that she would maybe come around. I realize that we were "quicker" in our R than others on this board but the approach was the same. If you are serious about making this work then make it work! Do everything that YOU can do to change the outcome so you know in the end that you did not give up. She may or may not come around, but you need to own the bad feelings from that moment and use it as motivation to keep going!
Also, I realize that you and Fish are friends, and through this experience I have really tried to take his emotional approach with a grain of salt. But, your life is your life and you need to make decisions based on your needs and goals. You don't seem to be so emotionally charged. I would caution you that a level approach is the way to go through this experience.
Good Luck!
Me: 33 jacka** whom lied, stole, cheated, and basically treated DW like crap for years DW: 29 kind soul who gave too much to me over the relationship
S7 S4
M: 7yrs Bomb: 10/19 Seperated: 10/24
The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce
