who feels insecure?

[sleeper]

Hello Girls,

I'm a guy but I'd like to throw in my 1.92 cents worth (2 cents adjusted for inflation).

After the shock I too began to compare myself to the OM. He is younger (9 years) and in, no WAS, in better shape than I. This was very daunting at first.

What has helped? Recognizing his faults and his/her/their issues. In most of our sitches their R isn't going anywhere for long and we know it. OM is a jerk and W, no EVERYONE, knows it. He recently shouted at W, "I'm not in love with you." I sometimes wonder what the relationship is based upon and I have come to the conclusion it is distraction. He treats her like sh*t, she treats him like sh*t and they're still together.

Comparing yourselves to OW is like comparing salt and pepper. Pepper can be exciting, but you can live without it. You can't live without salt.

I'm a 47 yr old man and I don't want a 25 year old woman. What would we have in common? How could she relate appropriately to my children? How long would such a R last? I would much rather be with one of you girls, stretch marks and all (I'm sure you notice them much more than I would). I found many of you very interesting as I read your posts, imagined what you're like and would be interested in meeting you.

A healthy relationship is characterized by friendship, respect, mutual interests, love, commitment. If the R lacks these then I don't want it, not even with W.

Take care of yourself, get a hobby (new or old) become healthier, try new clothing styles, GAL! If there is a new R in our future (with S or someone else) it will come along when we don't expect it, not when we're looking for it. In the meantime, relax, have fun, live.