Crazy stuff!!??, not sure if it is crazy but W has pulled back rapidly, she said she can't/won't do the freaky sex thing every night. I asked her to at least give me a clue if its gonna happen cos I'm out of practice, and need to exercise some mind control over the "little man" to ensure we both get fulfilled. W said she can't just give out dates just like that, I replied we'll at least let me know the year. Poor DB but that last one liner made me laugh.
Lanzo (and FG) I've been keeping tabs on your sitch and it looks like there are a lot of similarities. I'm not sure if you've followed my thread, but in a nutshell, W had an A. Started as EA sometime around July and became physical. Ended this past January. W recommitted to me, we went to Retro. The first two months were very steamy. Similar to your W. Sexual reawakening so to say. I guess somewhere in the back of my mind, I had the same questions as you about OG's influence, but I preferred to just embrace the change and enjoy the ride.
Unfortunately, things have slid backwards a bit over the last few weeks. W is now doubting this whole marriage thing and is now planning on moving out. We had a big discussion last night and eventually ended up deciding that it would be in two weeks. It was weird how much we are on the same page about many different things. I understand how she is feeling and don't want to be in a marriage where my W is just settling and doesn't really have those feelings for me. We differ in that I think because everything else is there, the feelings of wanting me can be restored. She wants to have those feelings of wanting me before she will commit to the rest of it.
Confused as ever, but accepting her need to move out if that is what will get thing back to where they need to be.
My W actually posts also on this board as Mom of 2 Cherubs and will hopefully chime in here to add her thoughts.
