I'm with ya. And I'm kind of reluctant to say this because it's really about my sitch and not yours, so if you read this and are offended, just tell me to not post anymore....
A couple weeks ago my W started doing those things too, emails at work letting me know what was going on, sending me a few text messages now and then, being more open and talkative at home and I thought GREAT, she's coming out of this and we're making some progress.....then I see the TM's with a GF and they are commenting how yes, things are calming down at home....woohoo I thought....then a couple TM's later and they're discussing the planned meet with OM not working out.
That's where I am with all the trust issues. Let alone W telling me she wanted to separate instead of ending her A and working on our marriage. But those trust issues will take a looooongggggg time to get over, for both of us.
The saddest part for me is, let's assume my marriage does end. Will I ever be able to trust a future partner? I've often thought that if/when I would start dating again that I would want a mate that has had their spouse cheat on them so they would know the pain caused by infidelity.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
