Originally Posted By: grumpyeby
So all my DB'ing is out the window and I may have just screwed things up for good, but I need some relief. Living in it day to day, 24/7 is just killing me.


I'm with ya grumpy. Living this crap day in and day out is just emotionally draining. I feel like I haven't LIVED a normal day in 8 months.

I'm in the same boat as you. I told my WW that we needed to separate because she refuses to work on the marriage and end her affair with OM and she told me she agreed with the separation but she and DS15 were staying in the house. Ok, so help me with this, she is committing adultery, doesn't want to work on the marriage, but I'm supposed to move out, pay her CS and SP and not get to see my son on a daily basis?

I know this might not help, but keep your chin up. I get down a lot, but everytime I talk to my brother he tells me how proud he is of me and how I've handled the situation and that helps me carry on another day.

So I'll say to you (even though I don't know you), I'm proud how you've handled yourself in your sitch. Look at yourself in the mirror. There's an honorable person looking back at you.

Hugs from Hope4Us


Hope4us

Me - 49, W 49
S22 & S18
Dday 9/4/07
W claims NC 4/7/08
8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.