Hello my Darlings!!!!

[cat03]

I agree and dissagree with the above statements, lol

If 4nowH happens to be with here for the kids and he can put up a lightbulb for me I'd ask; however, if my sink breaks I will not ask him to fix it (this place will at some poing be owned only by me, I'm paying him off) Indeed, my sink is broken, I have asked my brother and he's fixing it, wasn't planning on asking 4nowH at all, he did notice it was broken, i told him bro was fixing it and that was that.

Not asking 4nowH for anything has helped me detach, to stop thinking of him as my H, to stop expecting him to do things an H would--our S is pretty fresh so in my sitch it is better I do things myself. I feel I can do things without his help and it gives me more confidence.

I think I stopped asking for help after 2x he said no when I asked him to return a movie for me, it would've taken him 3mins to do it but he didnt' want to, so that pretty much led me to stop asking him altogether.

There are things in the house he has to deal with (mainly him taking his crap with him and help me set the porch in the pre-war state it was before he trashed it with his stuff) that i'm holding him responsible for, i wont' clean his messes anymore.