Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[newnamenewlife]

I am somehow going to throw this shower together tomorrow. I am constantly distracted/preoccupied by my M situation, though. I can't stop thinking of it, trying to figure out how H & I went awry. I can be talking to someone about something completely different and simultaneously thinking about it in my head. Is that normal? It's really exhausting to obsess so much. If ruminating burned calories, I'd be a rail by now. My brain never quiets down/

The last two nights the four of us have had such fun evenings together--which is pretty standard. LAst night we played board games, tonight we were dancing and being silly. I just don't know how the kids will possibly make sense of the idea that daddy is moving out. They see H&I laughing and joking with each other all the time--won't they wonder why he is splitting up our family? I know you're supposed to say "adult relationships are complicated" or something, but seems like a pretty weak explanation to give our kids--who are EXTREMELY sharp and intuitive (and I'm not just saying that as their mom!)