Thx DQ. I like DQ. Blizzards are one of my faves. I think my wife had the MLC 15 years ago when she had her PA after several ea's. I am no expert, but I tend to think she is going through "the change" along with focusing on unmet en's for years, our bedroom relationship and how it relates to her sexual abuse as an adolescent, and of course my faults and shortcomings.
The po she had served on me 3 months ago has actually helped me get a handle on things emotionally and with no contact I have stopped being rocked up and down with her wanting me there and then not.
I did recieve some mail last week that she could have very well sent to my daughter that lives with me, or through her attorney. The po mentions that there is to be no 3rd party contact (family) for me contacting her. Also my daughter that lives with me had a b-day party for her 5 yr old son yesterday and called me while I was out of town to ask me if I was coming. I replied that because my wife had asked earlier in the week if I was going to be there, I did not dare attend as the po states that I cannot be within 100 yards of her. My daughter was a little po'd at me because she said that my wife had told her she would not be attending and now both of us would not be there. I apoligized and let her know that I would always be at family functions if I could, but that I just would not take the chance of getting arrested.
Well when I got home later in the day, guess what? My wife had just driven the 100 miles to come to the b-day party unannounced, even though she thought I would be there. I am not sure what to make of that, but 2 of my daughters have told her that she won't have to worry about me bugging her anymore as I was moving on with life and she looked more than amazed. What gives with this? I certainly cannot figure her out. And I am slowly starting to wonder if indeed I would want to be married to someone who will not share her dissapointments, runs to other men for en's and leaves a marriage with no prior notice, along with deserting her own kids. I cut her alot of slack because I do not think she is emotionally and mentally all here right now, but it leaves me wondering where her responsibility comes to work on her end of things, and how much I can really do for the marriage without her also doing some things.
I'll continue to change and make myself better no matter what, becuase I will be the beneficiary regardless, but I could no way survive round 3 of this carousal.
