I figure that since W is still driving that big Cadillac SUV that OM gave her/loaned her, that I would stick with the similar subject based upon a song...
I wonder if this will be my final thread in "For Newcomers". I am hoping that within the next week or so I should know for sure whether my next destination will be "Surviving the Big D" or "Piecing Our Marriage Back Together Again". No matter what happens in my M, I know that my kids and I will come out of this ordeal ok.
Kerry - I know you'll all be ok, too. The only one who may not be ok is your W. Which is very sad...but all we can do is pray for her and hope for the best.
I still hope your M can recover, but I will keep checking on you to see if there's any progress. But if it doesn't recover, I know you are becoming a better person each day of this very sad process.
You have surely fought the good fight. When you know that you have shouldered your load and your W has (up til now) chosen not to, you can hold your head high. I am sure you know that already.
Your wait will be over soon. I pray for the very best for the 4 of you.
Glad you started a new thread, i have been looking for you! Hopefully you will get the resolution you are looking for. I know I am tired of Limbo and even though I don't want D I don't want to keep waiting on my life, either.......
Kerry, Thanks for answering all my questions. The positive way you are holding up under all the strain does inspire me. Some addional thoughts. If OM is such a nice guy why is he encouraging W's wanton behavior? Once OM ditches her W would end up feeling like the LBS?
I know you are sick and tired of the sitch. But given you're in the driver seat as far as you filing the D, W is not too happy about it, there has not been a lot of fighting between you, there is some hugging/kissing left and the fact that OM may not be around much longer would it be worth delaying things for a few more months in the hope that W returns to earth?
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
FB2, as far as W returning to earth, she has told me that she cant just snap her fingers and everything will be back to normal. She also told me to not have too much hope.
Yesterday at my golf lesson, we played 2 holes and I did much better. I have one more lesson and then I have to pay for some more. I do really like my golf lessons, but I also need to be concerned about my immediate financial future if we are going to continue with the expensive D.
Clearly she's still in somewhere is outer space, trying to have her cake and eat it. What does OM have apart from just things like the Cadillac and the waterfront house that you don't? The D will put you in a huge financial hole relative to now esp if W turns out to be materialistic and hostile. I too have to decide to move out of newcomers because our sitches seem mostly beyond what can be handled here.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
I think OM is probably a good listener or it may be that my W just liked him because he was a fatherly figure for her. She does say now that he is too old. I really dont care about what OM has as I have been reading the R books along with receiving the "Making Her Happy" and "Double Your Dating" emails so as to help myself become the better man for my W or a future lady in my life. OM may seem like a nice guy, but in regards to his moral character, he is a scumbag.
One other thing that just came up - I have the kids for the next 5 days, but OM bought tickets to Cirque Du Soleil for tomorrow evening. I told W it was ok for the kids to go. If we do get a D, I want us to have flexibility in our parenting plan.
On my GAL, I was just looking at some video from my golf lessons and was quite impressed of how far I have come in a short time.
Here is what I was like when I started: EDITED--PERSONAL INFO NOT ALLOWED
I was such a dork!
and here is where I was after a month of lessons: EDITED--PERSONAL INFO NOT ALLOWED
I am even better now, but still have a long way to go before I can compete with Tiger.
To be fair, I had not had any instruction when the first video was done. The second video was after 6 lessons. I have now come to the conclusion that golf is the toughest sport in the world to get good at.
